Hi there,
If you are here, you probably watched my video on having "few or no friends." You subscribed because something in that video clicked. You’ve likely felt like an outsider because you prefer staying home while everyone else is out partying.
Society often tells us that being alone means something is "wrong" with you.
The data says the exact opposite.
I promised you research-based value right…. so here is the scientific proof that your solitude is actually a strength.
The Science: The "Savanna Theory"
In a major study published in the British Journal of Psychology, researchers Kanazawa and Li analyzed data from 15,000 people to see what makes them happy.
They found two main things:
For most people, more social interaction equals more happiness.
BUT... for highly intelligent people, the correlation flips.
The study found that for people with high IQs, frequent socialization actually leads to lower life satisfaction.
Why? The researchers call it the "Savanna Theory." Highly intelligent people are often more focused on long-term objectives (projects, self-improvement, goals). Excessive socializing becomes a distraction that pulls them away from their purpose.
My Take
I believe that having a small circle isn't about hating people. It’s about protecting your energy. When you have fewer friends, you have deeper connections. You aren't wasting time on small talk; you are investing time in growth.
Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for choosing quality over quantity.
This Week's Action Step
Stop apologizing for saying "no."
The next time you decline an invitation to stay home and work on yourself, remind yourself: There’s no possible way that makes you antisocial. You are just prioritizing your long term happiness and that’s what matters.
Jason Chris
Psychology About You
P.S. If you missed the video that started this conversation, Video Here